Tuesday, August 19, 2008

It's a Girl!!!!

If you don't already know this about me I have to tell you... I love having a daughter.
I have never been a girls, girl. I have always felt and still do at times feel nervous when I am with girls. I always seem to say the wrong or raunchy thing that other girls do not say and many times do not appreciate. I experienced more rejection from girls than boys growing up. In my adult life, I have been greatly blessed with fabulous female friends and mentors. So much, in fact, that my cup "overfloweth" with girls. All this being said, having Jaida has been such a unexpected wonderful gift. When the sonogram reveled I was having a girl I was so happy, but a stab of fear went through me. "What if this little girl doesn't like me?"

Being uncomfortable with girls as a kid made me uncomfortable with my own femininity. As if some how being female or feminine made me weak or something negative. I immediately began to think and worry about how it would be raising a girl. Telling people not to buy too much pink for my baby. As if to somehow down play the fact that she would be a girl. I have no idea exactly what my problem was, as it was unconscious at the time.

Fast forward Jaida is here, and 15 months old. Since her arrival I have been so humbled by the wonderful gift of femininity. She responds to me and Noah and the world around her with so much gentle, tender, beautiful sensitivity. I am truly in awe of how having a girl ,come from me, could heal so much of my own insecurity. Insecurity with the God given femaleness in me. And insecurity of how other women might perceive me.

Me and my dad side by side with Jaida around the same age.

She looks sooo much like my baby pictures, which is so fun. But the most powerful thing about that is I love everything about her. All that she is and will be. Her heart, mind, spirit, AND physically. I would never want anyone to tell her the negative things that I have been told. Especially the negative things I have told myself. So my point is if I love all that she is I have to love all that I am because she came from me and in many ways will inherit my looks, mind, and spirit...who I am. I pray she is kinder to herself than I have been to me. Lo-ng thought short. I love being a women, and I love the women in my life. I am going to try to teach Jaida to love God, family, and herself... and her femininity, and to treat other women with grace instead of fear and criticism. If I can accomplish that, I will have raised the strongest women.

She is girl through and through. Love shoes, loves the mirror, loves herself. No one taught her.
lil monkey in her ducky robe. Just perfect as she is.

This is just so you can laugh. I thought I looked amazing. 4th grade.


JKJ said...

Dear friend, I love this post. Beautiful, just as you and Jaida are. I love you! -Kirs

Rachel Beacham said...

very well-spoken, corissa! and very true. love the 4th grade pic, you did look amazing...that hair!

The Dalgo Family said...

You are an amazing woman and your little ones are very lucky to have you as a mom! That looks like some 80's hair to me..well at least that is what my hair looked like in the 80's:)

magui* said...


pretty weird that i´m posting this. I´m Magui (Maggie) from Argentina, and just bumped into your blog after googling Noah´s name. I´ll try to make the story the shortest possible: i met the Christian Surfers ministry last year in El Salvador (central america) in a 14-months backpacker´s experience through LatinAmerica. Now i´m back in Buenos Aires and after praying for a while (and seeing all the wonders God is doing around it!!) we started gathering with some surfer friends a few months ago and sort of founded CS Argentina (we are JUST starting).

Well, thing is I was watching Noah´s Arc and googled a bit more about him just for curiosity. I came across with this blog of yours and read this post about you having a girl and your feelings about it: I related SO much to it!! haha i´m not even married but in my mind I´ve got that kind of a feeling about feeling a lot better around guys than with girls and insecurities about having a baby girl. Although I have many GREAT, close girlfriends, I still was feeling a bit ackward about having a girl and hoping I only have boys when the time comes... until I read this. It was just like reading my mind! so thanks for the courage to talk about that feeling and the wisdom and honesty to confess God had worked so beautifully about it. If it hadn´t been that strong, I wouldn´t have posted this, I swear.

So thanks again, and loved reading about the women surfcamp! I really hope in a few years our just-starting ministry will do something similar. Pray for CS Argentina if you can!


you don´t have to answer at all (!!), but in case you want my email is magdalena.vieyra(@)gmail.com